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Dear Lisa - could you help me with this fear? I have been overweight my whole life (30 yrs) and I am "used" to it. I don't know what it is like to be "skinny" and frankly being skinny scares me. I know what it's like to be fat so I guess I stay fat because it is my comfort zone. Why am I afraid to be skinny and how can I be motivated to be skinny if I'm scared of it? - another Lisa
Well, I am just a teenage girl, worring about my weight. I just don't want to get fat, and I am on the edge- my doctor says. But I really want to do this and be able to lose a little weight and not gain, but I can't find the time with school. And I know I shouldn't worry, but if not now, it will be harder and possibly to late later!!! HELP me!
I'm curious to know if you did much weight training or resistance work to get your weight off or was it through cardio exercises that you were able to doop all of yout weight?
Here's a question for you...I know that the road to permanent weight loss is filled with hurdles. Well, I totally fell flat on my face last night. I have a difficult time forgiving myself and I know that the guilt just contributes to the weight gain cycle. So, can you give me any advice about how to let go and move on?
Hi Lisa, I am a former fat girl too, I did sign your book as well. Looks like we have more than that in common. I am a Mass Media major who just changed her emphasis to PR from Media Writing. It is still my dream to write for a fitness magazine, but I was concerned with the competition and pay so I changed. :-) Anyway, congrats on your successes! My question is I need a cross training method. I workout daily and have for 12 years, but nothing more is happening and I am bored. I also teach step aerobics (which has given me plantar fascitis (cant spell it) and knee pains. I run, weights, etc...what do you think of pilates? Would it be a good cross trainer? Thanks for taking the time to read this!! Good job again, I will have to send you my fat pic some time!
I'd love to hear your thoughts on the pleasure of eating a piece of cake versus the pleasure of working out. I really do feel great after each workout but have alot of motivation issues to get on the equipment/get outside. Why can't I keep the pleasure of it in mind and use it for motivation, the way I'd always like to eat a piece of cake (but don't anymore unless it's a really special occasion). Love your book, your blog, and your reader's comments.
our 16 yr old daughter has been struggling with weight for years, and it is now 230+ We have tried everything, and nothing has clicked yet with this beautiful, wonderful girl...HELP HELP...we love her however she is, but know that her life would be even more wonderful if she got control of her eating as you did...your book is great! parents in need of direction
Hi Lisa,
I was wondering if you could help. I am getting married in 4 months and despritely need to loose weight, I have been overweight my whole life and right now I am at my heaviest.(295lbs) I was always athletic and have a very muscular build, but now since I am out of college I don't do much but work. I would love to just start loosing weight for my wedding and I feel that in 20 years when I look at my wedding photographs I am going to be very dissappointed with myself. I have been putting off loosing weight for about 8 months now. I am scared that I will feel horrible about myself on my wedding day. Please help, any suggestions would be amazing.
I'm glad that you mentioned that the only veggies you liked were potatoes and corn, because maybe my wife just might be your long lost sister. She is the same way ecept we won't eat mashed potatoes, for her it has to be potatoes cut up. She won't eat any other veggies or fruits for that matter because she says she doesn't like the texture of them. What was it that made you like eating other veggies? Maybe I could get my wife to do the same.
I decided about a month ago to start exercising so I can lose some weight. This has been my third week, 45 min. of cardio, and 1/2 weights and abs. I've been eatig healthier than ever and even though I feel better I haven't lost any weight at all!... In three weeks, I'm getting really frustrated because I have been working out really hard and I feel all my efforts are not paying off.. any ideas why? I don't want to quit but I'm very unmotivated now.
I desperately would like to lose my extra weight, but my "better half" is quite a picky (and unhealthy) eater. He will not eat vegetables other than potatoes and corn, and he loves the really unhealthy stuff, especially fried foods and starches. What can I do to get us both eating healthier - without force-feeding him foods he can't stand?
Thank you!
Yet another Lisa
I desperately would like to lose my extra weight, but my "better half" is quite a picky (and unhealthy) eater. He will not eat vegetables other than potatoes and corn, and he loves the unhealthy stuff, like fried foods and lots of starches. What can I do to get us both eating healthier - without force-feeding him foods he can't stand?
Thank you!
Yet another Lisa
Okay Lisa so here's my problem. I have 12 pounds to lose to get to my goal weight and NOTHING is working. I've been doing weight watchers and exercising 5 days a week (45 mins of high intensity cardio / 30 mins of strength training) I'm 5'4 and my weight is high (147) but I'm a size 6 pants / size 4 top and dress. Help! My weight hasn't budged in a month!!
How can I help my 19 year old daughter become a "Former Fat Girl"? I know she wants it, but is often offended by our suggestions. We joined WW together, I lost 18 and have kept it off...she has been on and off for three years. Thanks!
I am sixty years old and weigh 230, am 5/8". For the past 5 years I have tried so hard to lose this fat and have tried about everything you can think of. Can't seem to do it. Do you think my age is the blocker or please help me know what I do wrong.
Thank you sooooooo much.
Mary Anne
Dear Lisa,
I am someone that has always had a little extra weight since jr. high. When I turned 21 I lost 60 pounds pretty rapidly through Weight Watchers. I couldn't have been happier. But, after several years I have gained all the weight back and even a little more! I really want to get back to that place that I was before, but I fear that I won't be able to stay there again. For the last 6 months I have been trying to jump start a new life style, but with little luck. I don't know if it is my fear or my resolve that is getting in the way. Can you help me?
I have lost 35lbs and I am exercising. the problems are I am always tired and always freezing. Any suggestions??
Hi
I'm an avid exerciser (spinning and lifting weights) but my problem is my eating. I'll start writing down what I eat and do Weight Watchers for about a week, but then I lose interest and get back to bad foods. I know I need both exercise and healthy eating but it seems so hard for me. I am toning, but my tummy and thighs are my problem area. How do I stay with eating right? Any suggestions?
Dear Lisa, I am only 2 and I have been struggling with bulemia since my freshman year of college. I am doing really well on staying away from my old habits but now I am gaining weight and it is driving me crazy. I am on the college track team but working out isn't helping to control my weight. I consider myself a healthy eater and I was wondering f you had any other tips besides fitness and healthy food. Thanks so much! Sincerely, No Longer Skinny
It is No Longer Skinny again- I am 22 not 2!!
Okay, do I think I am a “fat girl”? No. But I do, and have always, carried an extra 10-15 lbs. that I can never seem to loose. I exercise, eat right (am always hungry no matter how much or how little I eat) but still can’t loose it. I am 5’2” and weight 128 lbs. I absolutely refuse to hit 130 lbs. (even if that means loosing a limb to have less weight on me). I recently got married and my husband always says “you look perfect the way you are” which is sweet but when bathing suit season comes around and I see all these size 2 girls around me I don’t feel so perfect. Plus, the couple we do the most with, the wife is my height that around 100 lbs. Not to mention the fact that she can eat like a cow and still maintain that 00 waist line. I know I will never be like that, my body shape is different from hers but how can I get some of this weight off.
I've been a FFG in the past - I still don't know how I got there! I didn't realize I was a FFG. I was still a "fat girl" in a size 10 as far as I was concerned. Since that time I've been riding the roller coaster between 165 and 215. I can't seem to get the habits of a proper diet and exercise to stick. Over-sized portions of nachos and french fries keep luring me away. I'm on WW and working with a personal trainer now but I keep sabotaging myself. I don't keep binge foods in the house but I find it so easy to go through the drive-thru under the "disguise" of taking the bounty home to my "family". Why can't I see food as fuel instead of comfort?!
I don't think I am a fat girl, I am girl who wants to be in better shape and feel comfortable to put on a bathing suit to go swimming with my son. Before I had my son, who is now almost 3 years old, I weighed about 120lbs, now I fluctuate between 135 and 140. My biggest problem is that I eat fast food too much and I eat too much junk food. I love popcorn, cold stone ice cream, chips ect. How do you get rid of your eating habits? I feel like I have no slef control to do this? Also, I cannot afford a gym membership, or the time it takes to go to a gym. I work 40 hours a week, so when I get off I want to be with my son, not out spending more time away from him at the gym.
Thanks for your time.
Hi,
I have a question for you. I am 28 and a perfect hour glass, except for one little thing; I am several sizes too fat. I have been on diets since I was 15 with no results. During the past 5 years, I have been working out religiously, and still to no avail. A little over a month ago, I went drastic. I started eating two meals, under 1000 Kcal per day, and excersizing each day. Still nothing is happening! I am getting a little frusterated, to say the least. It seems that no matter what I try nothing will work. Can you give me some sugestions? Thanks bunches
Lisa, I have had the worst time losing weight my entire teenage/adult life. I have always been heavy (I'm now 22 years old). I have been over 200 lbs since I was 15 years old. Now I'm heavier than I've ever been. I struggle so much with my diet. I do eat healthy, I watch my calories portion sizes, I don't ever go out to eat anymore, and I was exercising 7 days a week 40 minutes every day, and I only succeeded in making my clothes a little bit more roomy. Nothing other than that changed. After 3 months. I got sick, and started gaining weight daily while hardly eating anything- then I got extremely discouraged-I've tried everything...I'm at the point where I feel like I should just "surrender" get the Gastric-bypass surgery even though I'm not over 240 pounds. What kind of advice can you offer me?
Hello, i come apon your article and visited this site, and i have a question.....at one point in my life i was skinny, even though at the time i thought i was fat (and boy i realize i shouldnt have taken that for granted now) i had two kids, only gained a little weight, well i end up working management in a taco bell (which meant free food) and the pounds packed on-70 of them to be exact. my weight fluctuates constantly. i am disgusted with my clothes and every time i look in the mirror. i am on a diet plan and exorcise, which is limited due to kids that dont listen very well and not being able to get a babysitter, ever. last week i lost ten pounds, but somehow over the weekend put five back on. any suggestions to help me stay on track somehow?
I have always been overweight and in the last few years, I have packed on more and more weight. In recent months I have been committed to making the change and losing the excess weight and inches. However, I have always feared that if & when I lose the weight, I will have all this excess skin due to the years of it being stretched past its limits. My skin is no longer that of a teenager or young adult and I fear that the excess skin will always remind of all the weight, emotional battles, frustrations, etc of my past. I do not want to relive the past and fear of falling into old patterns. Is there a way to avoid this? Will the excess skin go away?
Hi Lisa! I am very excited about your book. I am going to buy it this weekend. I am a single mom. I work during the day and do home daycare at night. I don't really have alot of time for myself.I am about 80 lbs. overweight and very unhappy with myself. I would love to be thinner and feel good about myself again. A love life wouldn't be bad either. I tend to overeat out of loneliness and boredom. I know this, yet I can't seem to stop. Do you have any suggestions? Help! I'm desperate!!
Hi Lisa! I read your book this week and found myself nodding, smiling, and thinking over and over again, "Yes." "Yes." YES!!" I can't tell you how perfectly you captured the struggle that's been going on inside me for decades. I never knew there was anyone out there that felt the same way that I do. I was a thin child, and then when I hit puberty I developed voluptuous curves overnight. My father constantly warned me to watch it because I "had the propensity to get fat." Voila! The birth of my body-image disorder. What I didn't understand at the the time was that 117 pounds at 5'5" was nowhere near fat, and I walked around in a perpetual state of self-consciousness, especially when it came to wearing jeans or bathing suits. In my sophomore year of college my weight struggle truly began, as I put on 25 pounds and promptly started my never-ending cycle of yo-yo dieting and exercise. By the time I got married eleven years ago I weighed 168 and was ashamed of my body. I vowed that New Year's to take it all off during 1997 and I did...I whittled myself down to 114 pounds and loved the way I looked. However, maintaining this weight was not easy. It took constant vigilance and I often went to bed hungry. I moved up and down the scale fifteen pounds over the next few years. Then I went through a brutal divorce, broke 2 ribs in an accident, and spent three years on and off four different antidepressants. The result? I weigh 183 pounds at age 38 and I can't even look in the mirror. It's not just the weight, it's so much more...it's that FEAR you talk about that runs your life when you're a Future Former Fat Girl. When I was thin, I hated getting catcalls and resented the attention from strangers. I felt like I was constantly being watched (in college I was an actress and a print model, two occupations that did not help me with my body image and weight obsession whatsoever.) I didn't want to be noticed, I just wanted to be left alone. Now that I'm fat, I have the exact same problem, only its manifestation is different: I feel like people stare at me in pity, taking in my jiggling stomach roll and oversized thighs with the thought that "she'd be so pretty if only she lost a bunch of weight." In addition, my body is so out of shape, and I long for the days when I used to take a two-mile run without having to stop every other minute, or took Bikram yoga classes and could see the change in my body fairly rapidly. I guess what I am trying to say is that I desperately want to be healthy and thin again and to feel the power I used to feel in my own skin, but I feel trapped in a stranger's body with no way out. I can't seem to make more progress than losing ten pounds and getting stuck, then reverting to old patterns and gaining it right back. My exercise is sporadic (some weeks I walk 5 days a week, some weeks only once) and my boyfriend (who I live with, and who used to be an athlete but now needs to lose 25 pounds and who has his own issues) wants to come along with me on the weight loss/fitness journey, but has real trouble with portion control. Wow, this comment is getting too long! Lisa, the point is that I've been thin and felt great not all that long ago in the past, and for some reason I can't tap into those feelings to jump-start my weight loss journey. I look at my skinny pictures and just feel depressed and guilty for what I've done to my body and to my spirit. Being fat keeps me from doing things in my life I want and need to do, like creating relationships with other students and faculty (I'm back at school getting a second degree) or speaking up in groups or wearing the clothes I want to wear. How can I break through these self-imposed chains? I know from experience that success breeds more success in me, and that if I see results, I'll work even harder. But I can't seem to log any success, and I'm so discouraged. Please help with any advice you have. Thank you so much, and thank you for writing a book that spoke to the heart of me. Also, congratulations on being a FFG! I hope one day to join you there for good.
Hi Lisa,
I love your book! I am about halfway through it and look forward to reading a little more each night! I have two questions:
*What has been your favorite marathon so far?
*When/how did you plan out your meals and snacks? I think the Weight Watchers plan makes sense, I just struggle with finding time to plan it all out.
Thanks!
Dear Lisa- I am a former fat girl I lost over 100 pounds and I go to the gym everyday like its a job! I still though when I look in the mirror see the fat girl I was for so many years!! Its been almost 5 years since I lost all the weight!! I just cant get that image out of my mind!! Please give me some advice!!
HI..i absolutly love your book..im a 15-year old teenage girl and i need your advice. Ive been overweight my whole life and the last 2 years i have been trying my best to lose weight..i have lost weight only to gain it back. I have lost 7lbs since i started dieting..but i am determined this time to lose 25lbs by september. Anyways my question is do u think its reasonable goal to lose 25lbs in 12 weeks. And do u think its healthy if i eat 600-800 calories a day? My mom thinks this is too unhealthy..and she doesnt even want me to go the gym! she's a def. pusher...anyways im gonna disobey her cuz i need too ha ..thanks for reading thiss ..o another think ..i think about my weight 24/7 nd my friends say that im too obsessed ..lol they make fun of my pre-portioned lunches( of 5 crackers, 1 oz of cheese and 14 baby carrots)that are exactly 200 calories....am i really too obsessed ..nd if i am ..y isnt this payin off!?!?!?!??! thnx again much love pce
Hi Lisa, before I ask my question I'll give you a little background on myself. I was overweight my whole life, weight was always a BIG issue. However, in the past 2 years I lost about 45 pounds, this is the most weight I've ever lost in my entire life. I am super happy about it, but I find it to be almost surreal. Also I find myself battling with the horrible feeling of waking up one day and being 200 pounds again and it terrifies me! I'm only in my early twenties and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with this notion hanging over my head. I do exercise regularly and try different ways of working out if I get bored. As for my eating habits they are pretty good. My question is how can I get past my fear of weighing what I was before?? Did you ever feel this way? By the way, I absolutely love your book! You are truly an inspiration!
Dear Lisa -
I'm only 14 and I'm worried about my weight. I've always been "the fat girl" - and right now I'm trying so hard to lose weight. I'm overweight, and I know it - I feel that only way I can lose weight is by over-exercising and not eating, it's working but I know it is very unhealthy for me. I REALLY want to be skinny just like every other girl.PLEASE HELP!
- Weight Worry Wart
Dear Lisa-
I'm 16, fat and feel hopeless... i just want to fit in.. i am starting a new school this coming fall and was wondering if you had any tips or anything... i have tried weight watchers... didnt really work for me. i was SUPER unhappy. but i am unhappy now... I want to get from my size 20 to a size 10... which i was smaller than that a good 6 years ago.. i have always been a big girl... havent shopped in the jr section in a LONG LONG time. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! I really dont know what to do anymore.
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